It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Establishing principles for Christian dating will set men and women on a course towards Christ-centered marriages. Here are 10 important principles for Christian dating. That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despites difficulties and differences. I fear this mentality in the dating culture is actually promoting divorce. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience.
The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip.
Stop over praying and overanalyzing and start asking!
After you go out, call her again and ask her out again. Then if you decide that it just isn’t there, be straightforward.
It’s so much trial and error, but there is so much to be learned in that time looking for Mr. My good friend enlightened me to this fact when she put it into words one night. You don’t want to be lusted after, you want to be sought after. If he doesn’t, he’s a boy, not a man, and he’s not ready to treat you like a lady. A man likes to provide for his woman, it is not a weakness to let him, or to let him feel needed and appreciated, or that his hard work is paying off because he can treat his lady to a nice meal. No “project boyfriends.” I recently realized that every guy I dated until my husband, I wanted to (and thought I could) change. You cannot change who a person is and you cannot change a boy into a man. My example for this would be boyfriend #4, my daughter’s father. Our bodies are a gift from our Creator, and they should be kept until a man has sworn himself in marriage to us before God and all of our family and friends.