Knowing that I was moving back to a small town after years of living in cities, I looked at my therapist and said: "I can't date someone who has children. And while I was in love with both the man and the kid, I was totally lost. There is nothing wrong with single or divorced parents. But my friends back home in the small town I was moving back to? He had a son with his ex-girlfriend, who I also remember from my past.
I was in a relationship with a man who had a 10-year-old son. I was 29 years old, and the majority of my friends in Chicago were childless or childfree, whichever term you prefer. I knew that by moving back here, I was inviting many children into my day-to-day life -- and probably my love life, too. Despite all of my fears, I reconnected with this man from my youth.
Whether you date, live with or marry the man, you will never be his adult children’s parent, advise the therapists at Help in "Guide to Step-parenting & Blended Families." Set out to be his children’s friend.
They do not need a parent and likely will resent you for trying.
So you’re thinking of dating a divorced man or maybe you already are.