Source: Shutter Stock Before you do anything else, try to just ignore her completely.
Sometimes, ignoring someone who is trying to get to you is the best way to deal with the situation.
You two were a couple, and to see your spouse with someone else will trigger feelings in you that may be surprising and unpleasant.
It does not mean you are still in love but rather you are witnessing the evidence that your spouse now has someone else in the place you used to fill.
We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc.
What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
Whatever the reason is, trying to maintain a happy, new relationship while the past keeps coming back to haunt your BF is NOT fun.