The family may be matriarchal, although father or mother may take on the decision-making role.
For African Americans, women more than men tend to remain unmarried, and more women have been educated at the college level.
On the other hand, I also know from personal experience, that if a guy is crazy about a girl, and they move really fast, all the rules go out the window.
In fact, this is the way MOST of my relationships have started. Hold it out like a carrot for a horse and you’re missing the entire point.
An apt analogy to keep in mind is that learning about a specific model of car is helped by referencing the operator’s manual, but reading and even memorizing that manual doesn’t replace learning how to drive a car.
The following cultural patterns may represent many African Americans, but do not represent all people in a community.
A relationship is meant to be built on trust, and trust is both a two-way street and an absolute necessity.