So it didn’t take me long to decide I wasn’t going to date a man who had not been divorced for more than one year. But I had to do a lot of changes, and that was my journey.
Waiting that long was absolutely the right thing for me to do, but I can tell you that I don’t advocate for other women to follow my path, unless it’s evident that they need to do that.
But, the reality remains the same: you are afraid of being without a partner, you are lonely and in pain, and you feel like an outcast.
I’m in it to win it, not in it for a minute.” At this point, I hope you’ve done the "inside work" necessary to find a healthy relationship.
Do you understand what went wrong in your relationship?
After some time, you start to enjoy the freedom that comes with being on your own. If you don’t feel like making your bed, there’s no one there to get mad at you for it.
You can stay in your pajamas and watch chick flicks on Netflix, or you can get up early and run non-stop all day. The longer you wait, the more scared you are to enter the dating world, especially if you were married a long time and enjoyed the comfort and security of a loving relationship.
One of the scariest aspects of being a divorcee is the prospect of dating again. Your inclination, therefore, is to want to connect, and perhaps even rush into re-partnering. You should wait about a year before seriously dating anyone.