I can see that you’re nervous because you’ve figured out I’m about to tell you something important. This sort of change — the change that occurs when you sit inside your own pain — it’s revolutionary. And no matter how hard you try, you simply cannot fit into your old life anymore. And because you never promised yourself an easy life, but you did promise yourself a true one. Since I publicly announced the trauma in my marriage four years ago, I have become a soft place to land for women in marriage trauma.
I quickly say: , Craig and I endured serious trauma a few years ago. When you let yourself die, there is suddenly one day: new life. You are like a snake trying to fit into old, dead skin, or a butterfly trying to crawl back into the cocoon, or new wine trying to pour itself back into an old wineskin. And you have become a woman who doesn’t ignore her knowing. You did promise – back when you were putting yourself back together – that you’d never betray you again. I have listened to what kind of responses from people are helpful and which are hurtful. Try to avoid lamenting how sad it is that people “throw away their marriages these days.” Try not to generalize.
The couple split after 10 years of marriage, in March of 2016.
They had married in June 2006 and are the parents of two boys, Indiana and Atticus.
"He's one of my dearest friends and Ryan loves him. "I got lucky." The couple was last seen together on Aug.