I had just ended my second “serious relationship” and had been back in the usual rotation of dating apps when I met Drew*.Drew was a man that my mother would call a Nice Guy — a guy who plans good dates, calls regularly, is typically five to eight years older than me, and has a categorically “good job.” But he is also the kind of guy I’m so bored with after an hour that I sneak off into the bathroom to swipe around on Bumble in the hopes of lining up something better than the date I’m actually on.
If dating Swedish men was confusing enough, then dating Swedish women must be more so.
I’m a girl, an American-Indian girl, and therefore am not Swedish.
The dream of every foreign woman, and a few gay men too…But how make this dream come true? One big mistake a bunch of people make when dealing with love and relationships is to assume that: Wrong!
I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.
Here I’m assuming that one of the two persons involved is a local.