If you can do multiple things on your first date it’s going to create a feeling like you’ve known each other longer than you actually have.Plus, mixing in an activity means you’re more likely to have fun together and avoid awkward tension.
I know some mention of something specific on their profile would be good but the guys who are good at this must at least has some set templates that they can riff or improvise on. There's so much variation in personalities that every chic may react differently. It's the only way you separate yourself after you qualify on her acceptable looks scale. Party slut- Here's where being suggestive in your messages plays very well. Artsy- Off-beat humor works very well for this category.
Some girls respond well to complimentary openers, some don't. They usually have longer profiles, so look for something for an original joke.
I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.
It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.
A first message online dating formula is extremely valuable to have.