And believe it or not, the best time to pick up on any red flags is during your very first conversation. Men often reveal just about everything you need to know about their character and what you can expect from them in a relationship.You are not yet clouded with hormones like Oxytocin, the bonding hormone that is released through sexual activity.As hearing each others’ voices is also a whole new level of discovering more about each other, it is also often a key point for deciding that you don’t want to take things further, or for a potential partner to decide the same about you; this is the first time that you have a live interaction with them, and this tells you a lot. There’s an argument for speaking as soon as one or two emails have established that you’ve something in common – not least because the phone call very often tips one or both of you to end the connection, so talking sooner rather than later means you don’t waste time on non-starters.
It’s not just about what YOU want to know about him.
While you have your detective work in mind, remember you also have to make a good first impression.
I’ll show you how you can detect red flags on the first phone call to save yourself from future heartache.
I have had the most revealing first phone calls with men I connected with online.
I don’t see moving to phone calls as a bad thing, but I found meeting in person was much more valuable and more revealing so I aimed to get to the meeting part as quickly as I could.