In the era of digital dating though, new rules apply.Some might argue (and some studies will support the view) that online dating has ruined relationships. A ‘grass is greener’ mentality has turned some into perpetual serial daters searching for perfection. However, contrary to the rather depressing view expressed by Nancy Sales in her Vanity Fair article ‘Tinder and the dawn of the dating apocalypse', not all daters are looking for casual flings.
In order to attract like-minded people, you first need to spend quality time setting up your profile.
Melanie Schilling, Psychologist and Dating Coach, advises, “Spend some time pondering your three highest values; the things that are fundamental to who you are and how you live your life.
I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.
The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
Studies have found that dating sites make suitable matches more accessible because it broadens the dating pool (naturally) but we are as likely to form successful relationships.