This conversation sends the message that the past will stay in the past and you’ve moved on.
Here are 17 ways to tell if you’re exclusive without having to ask. If your plans regularly include socializing with their friends and co-workers, it’s a terrific sign that you’re exclusive. He refers to relationship as “we” when talking about future plans. Most people don’t say “I love you” until they really mean it. When he doesn’t look at you as temporary, he’ll let you know if his plans include possibly living together, marriage, and will want to make sure you know that you’ll be together for events and holidays months down the line. Your Facebook page includes photos of the two of you. When either of you hears from an ex and it makes you uncomfortable, you’ll both realize you’re not open to the possibilities with them and won’t want to lose what you’ve got. If the two of you hold hands in public, even in front of business associates and family, signs of affection will show the world you’re taken. If he’s making plans with you for his birthday and Valentine’s Day, which are important days for women, you’ll know there isn’t anyone else but you. If you’re under the weather and this person at your side with chicken soup, flowers, and would rather nurse you back to health than hang out with their friends, it’s their way of saying that you’re a keeper. There’s no way he’d want another love interest noticing your presence in his home. He lets his ex know he’s in a serious relationship.
When couples start to talk about vacations, holiday plans, or even booking theatre tickets months out and he says, “We should go to this,” then you’ll know you’re more than just a plus one for an office party. Sure some people easily say “I love you” for sex, but if you’re together five or more nights a week, talk and text every day, and they profess their love for you, chances are they mean it. He brags about you and introduces you to his female friends. When you’re in an exclusive relationship, just being together cuddling, watching television, or spooning at night shows how comfortable he is in having you in his life. While some people aren’t quick to change their relationship status until they’re engaged or married, if their Facebook page includes multiple photos of the two of you embraced as a couple, it sends a message to friends and others that they are taken and proud of it. Rather than being sneaky about it, your guy will feel comfortable enough in your relationship to tell you about it, rather than sneaking into another room to respond to the text. While some people make clean breaks with their ex, others still have occasional contact.
Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. The way he figures out if he really wants to be in a relationship with you is based on the quality time you spend talking over that first month or two.
This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.
The simple answer is that you take your profile down only when both of you agree to become exclusive and monogamous.