A woman I know snagged a boyfriend when she described her ideal job as a combination of circus performer and archaeologist. Unless you know for sure that you only want to meet, say, a nonsmoking Portuguese-speaking dentist, go easy on the list of qualities he must have.
Don't "like fine dining" when you can be passionate about Memphis barbecue, don't "enjoy movies" when you can declare your enthusiasm for Mel Brooks. Include the basics: your age and occupation, whether or not you have children, whether you're looking for a date or a life partner. "Mid-30s" or "early 40s" is fine, but assume he'll round up.8.
If you're not comfortable putting your picture up online, avoid overselling your appearance with dubious claims like "Sharon Stone look-alike." I started my magazine personal with: "Curvy, almond-eyed writer, fit (good shoulders)...." My husband says he was attracted to the soft sell of the description and the quirky confidence of the assertion.
Instead of saying you're funny or well educated or caring, demonstrate that.
Because, let’s face it, the odds are not in our favor, ladies.