“People don’t escalate outside their arousal templates,” says Weiss.
It’s about spending more and more time to get your fix and disregarding the negative consequences.
They are adapted, with permission, from the Alcoholics Anonymous steps, although the groups are not affiliated. Anyone who admits to having a sex addiction and states a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober may become a member. "Sponsors," people who are recovering with the group's help, assist new members.
Members are expected to complete each step as part of the recovery process. Small donations to help keep the group running are requested but not required. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, their second step requires "believing that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." References to turning one's life over to God occur several times.
There's no health coverage for it, no medication, and for those trapped in its strange and unrelenting spell, no easy way out.